Can We Protect Kids from Bullying? How?!!!

Posted by: John W. Zimmer
Under: Self-defense
13 Mar 2011

11 Responses to “Can We Protect Kids from Bullying? How?!!!”

  1. Dr. J Says:

    Gosh John, this is just a wonderful article on such a difficult subject! I was bullied in school and as much as anything, that led me into the martial arts. I do not support hitting children, by the way, as all studies on this show that children who are hit are more likely to hit other children and be bullies. There is so much I can say but just a story:

    I was at camp at around 12 years old. There was this one boy who was constantly bullied by other campers, especially this particular kid, the toughest guy at camp! The counselors decided to have them fight with boxing gloves in a ring in front of the entire camp to settle it once and for all. Of course since the picked on kid had no fighting experience we all figured he would be beat up. The fight started with the weak kid flailing a bit and it looked like it would be over for him soon when suddenly, he just KICKED THE BULLY IN THE NUTS and left him writhing on the ground. Who knew. lol!! No one ever picked on him again :-)

  2. John W. Zimmer Says:

    Wow – Great story Dr J!

    Love to hear about the bully getting his just deserts! I had a principle once told me that schools used sanction letting kids work out their beefs this way too.

    I don’t think spanking kids is all that effective and so long as parents have other ways to discipline or alter bad behavior that works – probably a parenting method that should go away.

  3. Matt Klein Says:

    John, great article. It inspired me to write a blog post today. I wanted to provide parents with a guide to dealing with bullying. It is at http://karate-kids.com.au/bullying-a-parents-guide-to-prevention/.

    I think your comments about your dad teaching you the one-two punch were enlightening. Not only did it give you the ability to defend yourself, it also inspired confidence. Most bullies can sense this confidence, and that is why martial arts classes are one of the best activities a child can participate in.

    I feel that teaching is an extremely important career as one teacher can make a huge impact on the life of a child. I also feel that teaching empathy is a key factor in reducing bullying. You must somehow put the bully in the victim’s place for them to understand. For President Obama and the First Lady to address the nation on this, it indicates how important the issue is.
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  4. John W. Zimmer Says:

    Matt! I liked your article on bullying (http://karate-kids.com.au/bullying-a-parents-guide-to-prevention/). I especially liked the saying, “We learn to fight in the martial arts so we do not have to.” So true!

  5. Michele Says:

    Another great article on an important topic! :)

    My daughter is in the 6th grade and things have gotten better for her. She has a nice group of friends. Several of the bullies transferred to a different school. She is an amazing kid. She stands up for what she believes and does not go along with the crowd.

    You are right…”parents have the final responsibility”. In 3rd grade, my daughter did not want to go to school because of the other kids. We scheduled a meeting with the Principal. We brought along email documents from a teacher acknowledging the bullying and a note from her doctor indicating that her “stomach aches” were the result of the treatment from other kids. The school soon discovered that bullying was more wide-spread than they suspected. The school held several meetings and implemented a bullying-prevention program.
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  6. John W. Zimmer Says:

    Hi Michele,

    It is good to hear your daughter is doing well. I assumed. :)

    I like how you gathered evidence to help the school do the right thing. :)

  7. Jo Green Says:

    This is a great article. It’s a tough topic for sure, and awareness is key in “fighting” against bullying.

  8. Lou Says:

    Great article on a problem that occurs much more frequently than most people realize. My son had a problem with an older kid that was bullying all the younger kids. Unfortunately his school had a zero tolerance policy on fighting. They don’t differentiate between a bully and his victim. Any fighting results in punishment. I told him to do what he had to do to protect himself and I’d deal with the fall out. Sure, he got suspended, but that kid hasn’t picked on him or any of his friends since.

  9. Matt Klein Says:

    Like you say Lou, sometimes the innocent kid gets punished as schools try to cut down on “mutual combat”, but in the long run, sometimes it’s better to bite the bullet. Your son has now gained the respect of the bullies.
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  10. Thor Securitys Says:

    You really can’t protect your kids from bullying because your not always there and even so you can’t fight a kid. I would teach my kids a couple of techniques so if things really do get rough he has more of a chance. people might think my way is wrong but if you think about reality then you will agree with me. You never know when a bully is stupid enough to carry a knife or something. So i would rather have my kid know some Self Defense Techniques so he wont get seriously injured because it is impossible to prevent being bullied.

  11. Jack Says:

    Really solid advice.

    I’ve forwarded this to one of my buddies who is contemplating to enroll his kid in Karate.

    For me I wish I had found martial arts at an early age, it wouldn’t kept me out of a lot of trouble. Yet I believe those experiences made my stronger – so I wouldn’t trade them for anything.
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