Under: Self-defense
4 Mar 2009

5 Responses to “What Does It Mean To Be a Man or Woman? Rites of Passage!”

  1. Cheri Arbuckle Says:

    Hi –

    I’ve been reading your blog for several months now and have really enjoyed it.

    I couldn’t agree with you more. Self-defense basics should be part of our kids’ schooling. Since the schools don’t teach it, we, the parents, need to fill that educational gap, the same way we (ideally) teach our kids how to cook dinner and handle a checkbook.

    The problem with this, though, is most parents have never learned self-defense themselves, which makes it difficult for them to even *know* that they need to teach this. So we come to this question: how do we educate parents so they can educate their children?

    I agree that enrolling your child in martial arts is a good first step. Particularly if you can find a school that offers RedMan or other full-contact defense courses. It would be nice if martial arts schools could reach out to educate parents, as well as students.

  2. John W. Zimmer Says:

    Hi Cheri,
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    Thanks for stopping by – Yes it is a tough thing to start something new, but not knowing where to go. I’ve always found it is not the style or even type of martial art but rather finding a good fit or feel at the school. Sometimes that might take a few tries.
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    You are preaching to the choir with me… as you know from reading – I think everyone should have some self-defense training at a minimum.
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    I added your site to my blog roll and I like how you examine issues in your posts.
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    Kind regards,
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    John

  3. Michele Says:

    Thought provoking post.

    I have a nine year old daughter who gets picked on in school. I have coached her to stand up for herself by using words first. We have taught her basic school yard self-defense (grabs, push). However, she is afraid of getting in trouble at school so she tends not to stand up for herself. My husband and I told her not to worry about getting in trouble because if she is defending herself (verbally/physically) we would support her.

  4. John W. Zimmer Says:

    Hi Michele,
    That sounds like you are doing the right thing. I taught my son how to use distance and he was just able to step back out of the way and counter in his first fight.
    Many times parents issues are with the school administrators. I’ve written a couple of posts about this that you might find interesting:
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    http://myselfdefenseblog.com/http:/myselfdefenseblog.com/school-yard-bullies-what-can-be-done/
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    http://myselfdefenseblog.com/http:/myselfdefenseblog.com/bullies-turn-the-other-cheek/
    I think that parents that try to help their kids work through these issues and are vocal as needed with the teachers and administrators are doing the right thing. Our children are our legacy in this world.
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    By the way – I’ve added a link to your blog.
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    Kind regards,
    John

  5. Sly Says:

    I wish I could have had training as a child, it may have spared me some very bad moments in my life. Thank goodness, I managed to survive and am alive to talk about it. I am all for children learning how to defend themselves.