I agree with most of your points but I’d like to point out that if a women takes the time to learn how to fight full-contact Muay Thai or kick-boxing and get really good (a top rated fighter), she will be able to fight toe to toe with most untrained and moderately trained men.

Think of it this way – a 120 pound trained man can take most any 200 pound untrained man. There is no reason to think a dedicated woman cannot do the same.

Back in the day when I was 160 pounds and first got my black belt, I worked the door. I had no problem knocking out 220 pound men.

You are spot on with the rest of your points in my opinion.

Thanks for commenting.

I certainly can see why you are worried. A couple of things… I don’t think you need to focus on self-defense here as much because as you said… you have given your son permission to defend himself and generally (boy) bullies go after easy targets… if you son is going to fight back, that won’t be a fun for a bully.

As far as the girls, that is harder because on the one hand, you don’t want to teach your son it is ok to be physical with girls but on the other hand you don’t want to get your son hurt if one of the girls hit him with a brick or something like that.

I had a situation in 5th grade that was similar… I took a bus to school and my grandpa gave me a deer skin jacket. Every day kids, especially one bullies use to pull the strands of the jacket off and push me down the steps and such… I did not tell my mom as I was ashamed and my dad was overseas in the military. This went on for about three weeks until one day I refused to get on the bus home. My science teacher at the time ordered me on the bus and I stood up to him in tears and told him I was scared to get on the bus and what was happening. He pulled the bullies off of the bus and told him in California the school was responsible for each child until that made it all the way home and if he ever touched me again – he would be permanently expelled from school. The harassment stopped right there and after getting mugged in the 7th grade – I had a burning desire to learn karate so that could never happen again…

My advice in this situation is that you go the school and the other children’s parents and simply say you will be suing them if the bad behavior does not stop. The school at least will understand the cost of a lawsuit even if the other parents do not. If you had to get a restraining order against the girls – I’m not sure but that would probably mean either your kid or the other’s would end up having to go to another school. I hope this advice helps… one time when my former step son (who is a diabetic) was not allowed to have candy in the class (after she was told about the diabetes), when into insulin shock… the school played hard ball after we complained about finding him wondering the streets. We simply said the correct the situation or we would be suing… and they instantly understood their liability and corrected the problem with that teacher.

I hope this helps some… I was small when I was a child and know full well that kids can be very mean. I like you want to make sure your kid survives this experience at this school.

John W. Zimmer
MySelfDefenseBlog.com

Now the problem is the girls. My son can hold his own verbally as he is bright and witty. The one I am talking about is one girl who has become more physical. pushed, hit (Not yet punched) and kicks him yes that one was from behind when he did not know it was comming. I told my son this is an act of cowardice to strike someone who doesn’t know it is coming.
Scince boys are not supposed to hit girls how is he to defend himself. I told him if she pushes so can he. I told him be aware of her feet. When she kicks grab her leg and pull her down (it was a side kick the last one I spoke of). I don’t know what else to say except use brute force just don’t punch. Any suggestions?? I have looked for 2 hrs on net and can not find anything relating to this type of a problem.

I take it from your post about James’s comments that you do believe women can defend themselves but not last in the ring. If you are speaking say middle weight full contact matches, pitting a woman against a man of the same skill level – I would have to agree because the man’s muscle.

But if you are making the claim that most men can beat any woman – I don’t believe that. Any woman, child, for that matter, man can learn how to use first self-defense and secondly karate, MMA or whatever (if they put in the time and effort) to increase their skill level and hence increase their chances of winning in self-defense or a fight!

The main difference is the training, desire, and wit. A woman is already likely fighting against a man that does not think the women can fight… if the woman does not give away her hand – she has a good chance defending herself against any man!

I agree with James general comments although like you – I think don’t think he chose the best examples to make his point.

Thanks for your insight John and just because I may disagree with you, does not mean I am right… I welcome all opinions that legitimately argue a point of view. The proof is in the pudding my instructor used to say.

Thanks,

John W. Zimmer